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By Greta Haussmann I was walking through the hallways of our student center as I overheard students remarking, “I really wish I could expect more…” This year we participated in the Love and Fidelity Network’s nation-wide poster campaign, and the … Continue reading
By Christian Say . . . um . . . you have the . . . er . . . wrong metaphysical framework . . . . uh . . . but it’s a comprehensive union! . . . . … Continue reading
By The Love and Fidelity Network Team This year marks the Love and Fidelity Network’s 2nd Annual Intercollegiate Orientation Poster Campaign. Over the next few weeks, posters will hang on 25 different campuses across the nation as a witness to … Continue reading
A person longs to be cherished as intrinsically valuable, as more than a bundle of impulses and appetites to be fed and fed on. A person also wants to be committed to and invested in. You are invested in when another person considers your success to be his success, your pain to be his pain and acts accordingly. It is the stuff of true love, and you deserve no less.
If all your experiences have led you to believe that community life is ephemeral at best (or to believe that your life is a “series of disconnected emotional episodes,” to borrow a phrase from my teacher Hadley Arkes), you have good reason to pursue very short-term engagements with other people, engagements where little if anything is promised beyond the present moment. You have very good reason to develop the kind of superficial friendliness for which Americans are known around the world. And you have very good reason to pursue hook-ups rather than more serious romances.