Tag Archives: Dating
"Jousting with Windmills" by Casey Gleave
Rather than finding satisfaction by saying “no”, Love and Fidelity Network students find joy in certain things that deliver it. They share truths that they have discovered by reason, science, and their own experiences. They are willing to take the heat that comes from rubbing against the cultural grain because they hope the truths they affirm will benefit this and future generations. Implicit in their speech and action is their assertion that you matter. Just as Don Quixote rode off on his Quest in the hope that Aldonza would see that she really is Dulcinea, “[They] hope to add some measure of grace to the world.” Continue reading
"Courtship, Etiquette, and the Adolescent Male" by Randall B Smith
Recently, Randall Smith discussed how etiquette and courtship rituals, which once helped channel masculine energy into constructive ends, has degenerated into hook-ups. In his opinion, women have been a large part of the cause. Read on for his take: I … Continue reading
"Why Young Persons Would Wait Forevermore" by Catherine Palmer
Most women still want to be princesses, and most men still seek to win a woman’s heart. Hefner and Sanger diminished the person to the mere sum of parts, yet we know that men and women are remarkable and multifarious, fantastic and so much more. There is still magic in the differences of the sexes—and what a joy it is to encounter them! Indeed, our world contains the possibility of being radically altered by this ‘other,’ who, through the eyes of love, suddenly becomes much larger than we saw before. Continue reading
"Austen's Power" by Peter Blair
We like Austen’s novels, I think, precisely because we are dissatisfied with the norms and rituals that govern our interactions with each other, especially our romantic ones. If we like innocent flirting at country balls, as our penchant for Austen suggests, we must also, on some level, dislike drunken hook-ups after games of pong. Continue reading
"Let's Talk About Love" by Yue Wang
After all, the sweetness about romance is knowing someone who will always enjoy the way you look (even without makeup or a huge volume of alcohol), who will be there whenever you need him or her, who would sit side-by-side with you on the Main Green on a sunny Saturday afternoon to watch the autumn leaves fall. An addiction to the “fast food” style of romance simply deprives one of so many beautiful things in life. Continue reading
"Sexual Integrity: Illusion or Reality?" by Joseph Kuhne
Those who reject the college hook-up culture and defend the ethic of sexual integrity are frequently accused of being idealists. “How can you expect all young people to abstain from all sex before they get married? It’s ridiculous to demand … Continue reading
"Noble Love in the 21st Century: We know what-not-to-do, but know-not what-to-do!" by Kevin Kwasnik
What, then, might the conservative minded individual do when trying to adopt and articulate a positive picture for his romantic activity in light of such conflict and dissolution of universally adopted, pre-marital standards? Two reactions to anomie seem typical: nostalgia and cynicism; either nostalgia for the “good-old-days” when values were clear and life was less complex or cynicism in despair of seeing no suitable, achievable option in present day circumstance. Continue reading
"True Love Waits or Maybe It's the Other Way Around" by Dr. Jason Carroll
The value of sexual restraint for committed couples moving toward marriage is best understood when couples appreciate that emotional intimacy is the true foundation of sexual intimacy in a healthy marriage. Emotional intimacy exists in a relationship when two people experience a sense of security, support, trust, comfort, and safety with one another. In dating, focusing on emotional intimacy is a process of coming to know each other from the inside-out, not just the outside in. Continue reading